This is really hard to admit, but over the years I have realized that I say things to my husband the are damaging to him. I’ve often justified my behavior by saying to myself that he does the same thing to me, but two wrongs don’t make a right. The problem is, it has broken down our communication and even though I’ve tried to apologize I feel like we are stuck in a rut. We are both the oldest in our families, he from a family of four and I from a family of eight, and sometimes I think our problem may be that we both are used to ‘taking charge’ and being ‘the boss’ and try to overpower the other one.

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I have been married to a wonderful woman for over seven years, we have three boys, two that I adopted and one of our own. Her first marriage was a bad one. We had a wonderful marriage until, according to her the last year or so. She moved out 2 weeks ago!! She thinks that it is in the best interest of the boys. She lets me get and keep our three year old as much as I want, I have had him since last Thursday. She had back surgery in Feb.,turns 40 in few months, our oldest is graduating higfh school this year, and she is working on her doctorate.

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[Note: This is a continuation of our shift posts, one and two .] To begin, I want to send a thank you to those of you who have sent me emails and left comments in support of Simple Marriage and our goal of fundamentally changing the culture of marriage . Your support means a lot. Second, I want to let you in on my thinking about things as we’ve progressed the past week. The response from people has been good, but I’ve got some concern as to how good the response really is

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I’m only fourteen, however I have a feeling that I am going through depression.
I’m young, I know. Age is but a number.
For my age, I’m pretty strange.
Hardly can I ever make friends because the people around me just seem so ignorant and obnoxious. This hasn’t just occurred either. This has been going on for as long as I can remember.
I am so self conscious that I can’t even look people in the eyes. When I do, I feel as if they find a million flaws. The same feeling occurs when I’m walking around school.
I actually have considered suicide. I don’t think I’ll ever do it, but I’ve thought about what it would be like.
I’ve always been very shy, so I’m easily ignored. When people do notice me they mistake me for something I’m not.
They talk about how sweet I am and all of these things that I truly am not. It’s almost like there’s a cage inside of my throat that are filled with the real me, threatening to spill out who I really am.
My sister is beautiful, and it really upsets me.
Also, I feel like such a failure.
I know that my mother doesn’t like me deep down. I’m not the child that she wanted. I’m not my sister.
I can’t help but get aggitated by everything and blurt out sarcastic comments. It pains me so much knowing how much I have hurt everyone in my life.
No one is there for me to talk to.
I had talked to my father before, but he and my mother have recently divorced and I hardly see him anymore. I’ve gotten all of my traits from him, and I feel that he’s the only one who can help me.
This is not hormones.
My dad never got over it, so why would I?
I cry almost everyday even for no reason.
It feels like I’m not a teenager. I’m just a ghost in a child’s body.
Nothing’s wrong, but everything is.
I had a boyfriend, but I ended up breaking up with him. I felt like such a burden on him that I didn’t want him to have to see my face anymore.
I try to focus on all of the food things, but I just can’t.
I don’t even want people hugging me.
What do I do?

go talk to a good lawyer …..

i am 23 years old and a west indian.i find this older woman at my college very attractive.she is about 40 and she is very short.she has short curly hair and big lips and slim.She is also hispanic. She is a security guard at my school were she does front desk work. I find her very attractive but I don’t know how to approach her. I know how to talk to her when I ask her questions about the school but I don’t know how too talk to her as if I am getting to know her. I don’t see any ring on her finger so she must be single or divorced. I just met her today and my heart already skipped a beat when I saw her eyes and the way she talks.How can I talk to her without be desperate or stalking?

In the United States, if the houses were purchased by each person prior to getting married, then they are not considered community property. if the houses were purchased after the marriage…no matter whos name is on the mortgage or deed, they are considered community property. these laws may not apply in the UK however.

I’m losing my Mom because of her boyfriend. She’s always at his house on the weekends and half the time during the week. I see her 5 minutes a day; everyday! And i’m only 14 years old.
When we do talk she’s telling me all about how I don’t love her.
I LOVE MY MOM.
I just stopped saying it when my parents go a divorced when I was around 7/8. I’ll say it once in awhile but I don’t much.
Days like Thursday, when she’s home, her boyfriends sleeping over here.
I just want to spend more than 5 minutes with my Mom and not with her boyfriend in the way.
We used to have ‘Mother-Daughter Days’ and now they’ve stopped.
She always told me I came first no matter what, but I guess she didn’t mean it.
We used to never keep secrets from each other, but now all she does is lie to me and I don’t get it.
She lied to me about smoking; I found her Cigarettes in the bathroom closet. Her past boyfriend and new boyfriend smoke so someone got her hooked on it.
She smokes in the bathroom, I can smell it.
I just wanna runaway knowing our Mother-Daughter relationship is ending.
I just need help on how I can get my Mom to listen to me?

When I was 16 I started dating a guy. I fell in love. My parents had problems so I moved in with him and his family. My dad divorced my mom and moved 800 miles away. When I was 18 I moved so I could live with my dad rent free and attend college. When I was 19, my boyfriend drove me down to where he lived so I could spend the summer with him, I got pregnant. I knew I wasn’t ready but I was happy.
Everyone else was not. My boyfriend started hitting me and he told his parents it wasn’t his. My mom gave me pills to “help” me miscarry. My dad told me he was going to give my car to my oldest sister. I had no job, and without a car I had no chance of getting one. I was 800 miles from home. But he didn’t want me there once he knew I was pregnant and my dad didn’t want me to come home until I aborted. My bf’s parents called me a liar, said I was a whore and that it wasn’t their grandson. EVERYONE IN MY FAMILY TURNED THEIR BACK ON ME. Now two of my sisters are pregnant. Neither married, neither finished college. I just got my degree and I know its bc of my decision but I would’ve rather been a mom any day. Haven’t had a period since my abortion, so Im infertile as I deserve to be. I think its because I moved too much during the procedure because nobody went with me so I couldn’t have medicine (you cant drive after taking the medicine). The whole thing kills me. Now, anytime I see those panels on ceilings that look like clouds I get chills. I think im severely depressed. Im not even happy for my sisters and Im beginning to hate the world. Its been over 2 years. I cant get past it. Cant even look at my family. This sounds so emo but I really don’t feel anymore, except when I think of how my kid would be… and how old it would be… and then I just cry. Everyone keeps posting sonograms on fb and I hate it. Im becoming such a hateful person. How do I forgive and just be happy? I dont care about forgiving myself, I never will. How do I forgive everyone else?

My husband is incarcerated. I’ve been having a hard time with being alone. No family. No church (I work most weekends so it’s very difficult to go and I live in a small town.

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